Shake it off!

Getting Out of a Funk

I don’t know about you, but this week I had some serious moments of grumpiness, anxiety, and over all “WHAT IS HAPPENING?!?!?!” feelings. And then other moments of pure bliss in my happy little bubble. Which honestly… I think that’s normal and par for the course when you are going through anything weird or difficult.

Ryan and I joke that I really like my feelings. I’m NEVER one to sweep anything under the rug. I like to feel exactly what I’m feeling in the moment and either totally embrace it or deal with it. End of story. But mid-week this week I just couldn’t shake the funk I had let myself slip into. I wasn’t complaining or anything, I just felt apathetic… Which is clearly not normal my vibe, ha!

Anyway, it went on for 2 days straight. Yes, there is totally grace for that (and much more), but I was just over myself to be completely honest.

… And then I got a DM from a reader and I remembered.

She sent me a message saying that she was having a really hard time. She said she knew we’d been through hard times before too and asked for advice. It was so sweet, genuine and far too kind. I am not a counselor, therapist, or psychiatrist… just a gal who’s sat on the couch across from a counselor for countless hours once upon a time (and as often as I can!). So I sent her a few blog posts I had written about documenting the good, journaling, and more, plus a word of encouragement and a virtual hug. But really, she did way more for me. She reminded me that it was time to get out of my own funk.

I love when I get that nudge from the Holy Sprit that says, “I’ve got you. You can shake it off now, it’s time.”

So I reread my old blog posts, then pulled out a few of my old tricks (listed below) and got back on track. Life isn’t perfect. I personally wasn’t built just for the happy side of feelings (no one is!), I like the WHOLE spectrum… so it’s okay to feel them. I believe God gave them to me for a reason. But it’s also okay to say, let’s slide back into happy, okay?! I can’t choose what happens around me or make decisions for others, but I can decided how I feel, and that right there, is whole lot of power.

So cheers to Friday, and deciding to take the power back.

My Favorite Tricks

  1. MOVE – I hate moving when I’m grumpy. I like to melt into the sofa, but you know… just a walk around the block in your pjs (which I have done) can really lift your spirits!
  2. GET OUTSIDE – I know this may be tough depending on your current situation, but if you can and are able, breathing fresh air without your phone is like a spa day.
  3. JOURNAL – Write alllllllllll the things down. It doesn’t have to make sense, it doesn’t have to be grammatically correct. Just write them down as the words come, set a timer for 10 minutes. You will feel a BILLION times better.
  4. TALK – Tell someone that you are feeling weird. Ask them to listen, not to help. Just get it off your chest and share to a trusted friend or partner.
  5. BE GENEROUS – Do something for someone else. It can be as simple as making a meal and dropping it off for a neighbor to sending someone a gift card, to calling a loved one who may be lonely.
  6. SHOWER – I feel like this goes without saying, but honestly there is very little a good hot shower can’t fix! 😉

Side Note: These are not really “tricks”, just things you and I already know, but sometimes I can’t remember common sense things when I’m weary, you know?! So this list is really more for me than you. I need a place of reference for when I need it again! 😉 Also, I want to put it in here just in case it isn’t CRYSTAL CLEAR. Your feelings matter. You matter, we all matter.

The light shines in the darkness, and the darkness has not overcome it. John 1:5

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3 Comments

  1. Janie Foltz
    May 8, 2020 / 9:12 am

    Ashley….good morning. Just opened your post. This was great. Understanding that each of us have our personal struggles and can get in a ‘funk’ ..it can help to hear from other’s and how they deal with it. You were spot on for me. My faith is first to help. I delve into devotionals and Bible reading and it helps even more when I can get outside on my patio with a cup of coffee in hand. Sitting outside with the sun coming up and the birds chirping I am reminded the “joy cones in the morning”. Have a beautiful day and weekend. Best to you..(by the way….I am old enough to be your mother…)

  2. Janie Foltz
    May 8, 2020 / 9:14 am

    Sorry…mistakes in my post…that “joy comes in the morning”

  3. May 8, 2020 / 12:27 pm

    Aw, love this post Ashley! Hope the run helped! I’ve gotten my few weird days during quarantine to! Just weird days but I started documenting the good and it really helps!

    Katie

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